The Cost of Motherhood

13 May 2013

I fear many moms may have felt “let-down” or “disappointed” as a result of what they received (or rather, didn’t receive for Mother’s Day). Whether that be acknowledgement, gifts, praise, or perhaps time alone (or with their girlfriends). Maybe they had high expectations? Maybe they’re comparing themselves with someone else?  Maybe they thought they deserved more for being a tireless, hard working mom?

The truth is, we can all easily fall into that trap of entitlement. The world is always telling us we deserve more- as women, as moms, as wives. The fact is, we deserve absolutely nothing. I don’t know about you but Mother’s Day or not, we all still sin and I still mother. 

I don’t want to be one of those women of the world who expect (even demand), and ultimately, feel disappointed as a result of what they thought they deserved.

The gift of motherhood comes as a result of laying down my life for the sake of these little ones that God has entrusted to me. The gift of motherhood is that Christ is shaping me to be more like Him. The gift of motherhood comes as my children learn to walk in the Truth.

It’s not always easy and for me, it doesn’t come naturally, but this is the silent work, the greatest joy, and the eternal reward of motherhood.     

The Cost of Motherhood

Once a lady went to visit her friend. During the visit the children of the friend entered the room and began to play with each other. As the lady and her friend visited, the lady turned to her friend and said eagerly and yet with evidently no thought of the meaning of her words: “Oh, I’d give my life to have such children.” The mother replied with a subdued earnestness whose quiet told of the depth of experience out of which her words came: “That’s exactly what it costs.”

There is a cost of motherhood. And the price is no small sum. And if you are not willing to pay this price, no amount of encouragement about the joys of motherhood will satisfy.

But the price of motherhood is not fundamentally different from the price of being a disciple of Jesus Christ. In fact, Christian mothers see their duty as mothers flowing from their calling to Jesus Christ. And what is this cost?

Christian motherhood means dedicating your entire life in service of others. It means standing beside your husband, following him, and investing in the lives of children whom you hope will both survive you and surpass you. It means forgoing present satisfaction for eternal rewards. It means investing in the lives of others who may never fully appreciate your sacrifice or comprehend the depth of your love. And it means doing all these things, not because you will receive the praise of man — for you will not — but because God made you to be a woman and a mother, and there is great contentment in that biblical calling.

In other words, Motherhood requires vision. It requires living by faith and not by sight.

These are some of the reasons why Motherhood is both the most biblically noble and the most socially unappreciated role to which a young woman can aspire. There are many people who ask the question: Does my life matter? But a mother that fears the Lord need never ask such a question. Upon her faithful obedience hinges the future of the church and the hope of the nation.

In 1950, the great Scottish American preacher Peter Marshall stood before the United States Senate and he explained it this way:

The modern challenge to motherhood is the eternal challenge — that of being a godly woman. The very phrase sounds strange in our ears. We never hear it now. We hear about every other kind of women — beautiful women, smart women, sophisticated women, career woman, talented women, divorced women, but so seldom do we hear of a godly woman — or of a godly man either, for that matter.
I believe women come nearer fulfilling their God-given function in the home than anywhere else. It is a much nobler thing to be a good wife than to be Miss America. It is a greater achievement to establish a Christian home than it is to produce a second-rate novel filled with filth. It is a far, far better thing in the realm of morals to be old-fashioned than to be ultramodern. The world has enough women who know how to hold their cocktails, who have lost all their illusions and their faith. The world has enough women who know how to be smart.
It needs women who are willing to be simple. The world has enough women who know how to be brilliant. It needs some who will be brave. The world has enough women who are popular. It needs more who are pure. We need women, and men, too, who would rather be morally right that socially correct.

As we approach America’s national Mother’s Day celebration, lets remember that we are fighting for the Lord, and it is He who prioritizes motherhood and home as the highest calling and domain of womanhood “that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:5.

May the Lord fill our churches with faithful mothers.

 

-Doug Phillips

President, Vision Forum Ministries

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