How to Miss a Childhood

How to Miss a Childhood
*Keep your phone turned on at all times of the day. Allow the rings, beeps, and buzzes to interrupt your child midsentence; always let the caller take priority.

*Carry your phone around so much that when you happen to leave it in one room your child will come running with it proudly in hand—treating it more like a much needed breathing apparatus than a communication device.

*Decide the app you’re playing is more important than throwing the ball in the yard with your kids. Even better, yell at them to leave you alone while you play your game.

*Take your children to the zoo and spend so much time on your phone that your child looks longingly at the mother who is engaged with her children and wishes she was with her instead.

*While you wait for the server to bring your food or the movie to start, get out your phone and stare at it despite the fact your child sits inches away longing for you talk to him.

*Go to your child’s sporting event and look up periodically from your phone thinking she won’t notice that you are not fully focused on her game.

*Check your phone first thing in the morning … even before you kiss, hug, or greet the people in your family.

*Neglect daily rituals like tucking your child into bed or nightly dinner conversation because you are too busy with your online activity.

*Don’t look up from your phone when your child speaks to you or just reply with an “uh huh” so she thinks you were listening.

*Lose your temper with your child when he “bothers” you while you are interacting with your hand-held electronic device.

*Give an exasperated sigh when your child asks you to push her on the swing. Can’t she see you’re busy?

*Use drive time to call other people regardless of the fact you could be talking to your kids about their day—or about their worries, their fears, or their dreams.

*Read email and text messages at stoplights. Then tell yourself that when your kids are old enough to drive they won’t remember you did this all the time.

*Have the phone to your ear when she gets in or out of the car. Convince yourself a loving hello or goodbye is highly overrated.

Follow this recipe and you will have:

• Missed opportunities for human connection
• Fewer chances to create beautiful memories
• Lack of connection to the people most precious to you
• Inability to really know your children and them unable to know you
• Overwhelming regret

If you find this recipe difficult to read—if you find that you have tears in your eyes, I thank you, and your child thanks you.

I saw this article last month from Hands Free Mama and since then, it's gone viral.  It's really no surprise, since it probably struck a cord with so many moms.  Her message has lingered on my mind, simply because it is so important and relevant today.

We are a culture that is addicted to distraction. 

And it breaks my heart to see our children, inadvertently, being trained in the same way.

Yes, I realize we live in the 21st century and yes, the whole world seems to be online.  Everywhere we look, we are surrounded by screens and the use of quick images, short phrases, and endless distractions.  Even in our modern churches, this is becoming more and more prevalent!

When it comes to parenting, I think we need to be wise and examine (often), where our time is being pulled.  Life is full of checks and balances.  As of right now, on most days, I have the opportunity to write a couple of times a day while I sit at my computer.  Even though I love to write, if I've missed that window for any reason, too bad.  Life goes on.  I am first and foremost a wife and a mom and I want my actions to reflect my words when I say "my family is my highest priority."  Therefore, putting down the phone or stepping away from the computer is not always the easiest choice, but it is the best choice.

Lord help us!  Convict us in the areas where we need to be convicted; inspire us to choose the better things, and equip us with the Holy Spirit to manage our time with wisdom, purpose and grace!  

Let us be intentional at Grasping a Childhood, instead of missing one!

Read the rest of How to Miss a Childhood.